Ok, so today is Saturday which means basketball day fro my son. So, we get up, we go to the school and he begins to practice. Time comes for the game and I start doing what all good dads do, I start giving me pointers on how to play. Then I am struck by something that a friend once said in his [1] blog. He was coaching his daughter in basketball and after giving her instruction for quite some time decided to just give her support. So, I began to think by giving him constant instruction am I somehow sending the message that I don’t love him as he is? Or that he is somehow not good enough for me. Well, I am a man and as such, when I see something that is broken, I want to fix it. It is just how I am wired. So, when I see that my son’s team is not scoring very many points, I want to do what I can to help. In doing this am I actually breaking down my son’s self essteem? Next week I am going to try the encouragement thing, we will see how that works. I will keep you posted.